Lies, both big and little, can come from a well-meaning place or 
somewhere more sinister. Whatever the intention, the tricks of spotting a
 lie are the same. While understanding his underlying motivation to lie 
can make it easier to spot his tell, there is a good chance he’ll display
 one of these incriminating behaviors when being less than honest:
1. Stuttering is a classic sign of lying. Not telling the truth can 
cause a short-circuit of the brain, creating a gap in smooth 
conversation when an excuse to cover up the truth is not thought of quick
 enough.
2. When the liar can not come up with a plausible story, repetition 
happens. The details he can come up with are repeated again and again, 
scrambling to cover something up.
3. Pausing and stalling are signs of forgetfulness. These signs tend 
to rear their ugly heads when creating new lies to cover old tracks or 
when recalling old lies.
4. The past is honestly misremembered from time to time, but critical
 details that excuse absences, disappointments or unexplained events 
should never change. If you are noticing a change in details, that is a 
good sign there is been some lying going on.
5. If his story sounds rehearsed or is repeated mmultiple times, you can almost bet it is a lie.
6. During a discussion, if your guy under-reacts (like staring into 
space and staying silent to your accusations) or over-reacts (becoming 
aggressive and starts a fight) there is probably an underlying problem 
he is hiding. Extreme reactions to questions are big red flags.
7. Fleeing
the scene is a common option for liars. He will make excuses to leave
 the conversation and sometimes the house, making it impossible to get 
the full story. More importantly, leaving gives him time to make up a 
more plausible story.
8. Shifting the focus
to something else is a way to deflect the spotlight and avoid 
uncomfortable feelings. A less creative but more cunning man may try 
this tactic instead of telling a story he knows is untrue.
9. When you lie, it is a natural to not want to make eye contact. 
Avoiding eye contact is one of the best ways to give away your honesty. 
Notice where your man’s eyes are looking when he’s telling you his 
story.
When your guy gets caught in a lie it is usually an embarrassing and 
nerve-racking ordeal. Some people use lying to get ahead, like it is some
 sort of game or challenge. In extreme cases, lying is a good indicator 
of sociopath behavior and narcissism. Sometimes, dishonesty is a 
learned reflex from an abusive childhood. However, remember that lying 
is also a natural human instin
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