Lies, both big and little, can come from a well-meaning place or
somewhere more sinister. Whatever the intention, the tricks of spotting a
lie are the same. While understanding his underlying motivation to lie
can make it easier to spot his tell, there is a good chance he’ll display
one of these incriminating behaviors when being less than honest:
1. Stuttering is a classic sign of lying. Not telling the truth can
cause a short-circuit of the brain, creating a gap in smooth
conversation when an excuse to cover up the truth is not thought of quick
enough.
2. When the liar can not come up with a plausible story, repetition
happens. The details he can come up with are repeated again and again,
scrambling to cover something up.
3. Pausing and stalling are signs of forgetfulness. These signs tend
to rear their ugly heads when creating new lies to cover old tracks or
when recalling old lies.
4. The past is honestly misremembered from time to time, but critical
details that excuse absences, disappointments or unexplained events
should never change. If you are noticing a change in details, that is a
good sign there is been some lying going on.
5. If his story sounds rehearsed or is repeated mmultiple times, you can almost bet it is a lie.
6. During a discussion, if your guy under-reacts (like staring into
space and staying silent to your accusations) or over-reacts (becoming
aggressive and starts a fight) there is probably an underlying problem
he is hiding. Extreme reactions to questions are big red flags.
7. Fleeing
the scene is a common option for liars. He will make excuses to leave
the conversation and sometimes the house, making it impossible to get
the full story. More importantly, leaving gives him time to make up a
more plausible story.
8. Shifting the focus
to something else is a way to deflect the spotlight and avoid
uncomfortable feelings. A less creative but more cunning man may try
this tactic instead of telling a story he knows is untrue.
9. When you lie, it is a natural to not want to make eye contact.
Avoiding eye contact is one of the best ways to give away your honesty.
Notice where your man’s eyes are looking when he’s telling you his
story.
When your guy gets caught in a lie it is usually an embarrassing and
nerve-racking ordeal. Some people use lying to get ahead, like it is some
sort of game or challenge. In extreme cases, lying is a good indicator
of sociopath behavior and narcissism. Sometimes, dishonesty is a
learned reflex from an abusive childhood. However, remember that lying
is also a natural human instin
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